Archive | August, 2014

T’was the night before school

14 Aug

Tonight, is the night before school. Max will be starting 1st grade tomorrow. He is excited. His new teacher Mrs.L, is in the room next door to his kindergarten teacher. He has some friends from his preschool and kindergarten class, so that should be good. We are trying to start this year off on the right track. I made him a 3 part schedule.
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It is hard to see, I know, but it is broken down into before school, immediately after school, and before bed. It will tie into his behavior chart and he is responsible for checking off each part of his schedule upon completion. For each section he completes, he will get a star. I figured since he will be missing 7 hours a day for 5 days per week (most weeks) it will be harder on him to acquire the stars he needs to in order to get his rewards. I thought I could adjust the number of stars, but then I would have to adjust Rory’s, and I feel for each kid they are at just the right amount of stars, to where they really have to work for it. It isn’t too easy but yet it isn’t too hard. In fact just 2 weeks ago, Max got 17 stars and Rory got 14! Which was 2 more for each than the highest award ( Special Trip with mommy and daddy)  So, by tying his schedule in with his behavior chart, it is enforcing 2 ideas together! We have yet to set up an appointment with the school for his 504 plan. Which we hope to get started soon. We will need a letter from his doc about his ADHD anyway, and since we have that appointment with her on the 18th about starting meds I figured we’d wait and see how school started before we try figuring out all of that stuff. I know the school is awesome and is going to work with us in getting Max the best possible chance to succeed in spite of the ADHD.  Max has his reading placement test last week, and did amazing. Scored a level 8, top being a 10, and the average being a 5. So, needless to say I’m pretty jazzed about that. Bill and I were actually worried because at home while reading he has been guessing at words and making mistakes he has never done before, but luckily he didn’t have any of those problems while doing the test.

Rory and I will be doing year 2 of our preschool together. Bill and I wanted to send her to preschool, but honestly we just can’t afford it. Which makes me feel guilty, since Max had the chance to go to preschool, but what can we do? I’m not worried, but I just feel like she might be missing out on some things that Max got to experience. But I guess as long as she is kindergarten ready, that is all that matters. In fact, I had some kindergarten readiness papers left over from when Max was getting ready for kindergarten round-up, and I went over the questions with her, and shoot, she is a handful of items away from being kindergarten ready now! And that really takes the pressure off of me. I didn’t go to school for early childhood education. I went for secondary music education. Not really the same thing, but I guess my play first, follow my kids’ lead approach has really helped both of my kids be ready without too much fuss. I do have a schedule planned out for Rory and I. I do want to reinforce things she already knows, and work on things she hasn’t got to yet, but I will always follow her lead and some days we might throw our schedule out the window and just have a tea party and just spend the day playing!

I am trying to get “into shape”. Last year during wrestling season was an eye opener for me. Just sparring with Max left me winded. Helping him warm up, helping him with new moves left me winded or pulled something in my back. I don’t want to be the mom that has to tell her kids she can’t play football or kickball or tag with them because she’s “too tired’ (aka out of shape and can’t run). I hate giving excuses for why I have to stop the nerf wars before they are done because I can’t do it any more without wanting to throw up. I want my kids to remember me playing with them, going on hikes, just being healthy. I don’t want them drinking 3 pops a day as they get older because they have seen me do so for years. I don’t want them to keep eating past the point of being full because they have seen me do so for years. I want to be around to see them grow and have families of their own and heck, maybe even see my grandkids have families of their own. I’m not ashamed of my body. I used to think I was. But my body has done some amazing things. I’ve played soccer, rugby, and wrestled. My body has even grown, given birth to and nourished 2 kids.  I like my new butt (my pre-pregnancy butt was pretty flat), My hips are a bit wider than they used to be which gives me some curves. I’m not too impressed with my breasts, but those are here to stay unless I get surgery. I don’t care about my stretch marks, cellulite or even having a little “pouch”, I just want to be able to walk without my knee hurting, to chase my kids around a shoot them with nerf guns and spar with Max at wrestling practice. So I’ve started the 30 Day Shred by Jillian Michaels. I’m nearing the end of my first week and I’m doing everything with weights with only 1-3 breaks to catch my breath. I’m not trying to get to a certain weight. If I get to 130 (currently am around 140) and I feel better, I’ll be happy. I’ve been cutting calories and watching my portion size. I’ve stumbled the past few days, but I’m not going to let that stop me. I’m excited to being healthy again. Something that I haven’t been able to say for 7 years.

And lastly, we are house hunting. We’re getting our debt taken care of bit by bit, and we are getting out into the market and seeing what is where and what we can get for our money. We would LOVE to stay in the area we are currently in, as the school district is literally the best in the area, the town is small and is up and coming and we just love it. Catch is, it is EXPENSIVE. But it will be worth it. But we’re also checking out other neighborhoods and schools. If we find a house we love and can afford, we might even have the option of open enrolling. The thing about this “new” “development” is that, if you would have asked Bill and I 6-7 years ago if we would ever be able to buy a house, we would have laughed at you. We had given up on that dream. But we’ve been working pretty hard in taken care of our debt and that work is starting to pay off. We are going to take it slow, as we do still have some credit work to do before we can even start the process. But for now, we are looking and seeing what is out there and seeing what we like and want and what we don’t want. and that is still just as fun!

So many things going on right now, and it is great! Hope to write again soon!

AK